ONE Thing You Need Most During Divorce...7 Ways to Get It
Updated: Jan 10
Resilience is the ability to manage stress and cope in healthy ways. It’s the ability to return to your personal “normal” after a stressful time. It doesn’t mean that you don’t get sad or hurt or anxious…it means that you know how to process all those feelings and recover quickly.
Resilience is critical during and after divorce. It can mean the difference between being stuck in sadness, anger, and despair and getting up and moving on into the future.
I'm not sure it's always possible to be positive throughout a divorce...that's not what resilience is anyway.
Here are 7 things that I did (consciously but imperfectly) during my divorce to build resilience:
Focus on self-awareness (not positivity)
Look for meaning in the negative events and emotions (Click here for some help with loneliness)
Understand what self-care really is and make it a priority (For self-care ideas during divorce - click here)
Build a support network
Get physical exercise and let the endorphins flow
Be helpful to others (How to help a friend who is getting divorced)
Learn how to process feelings and emotions with a counselor, coach, psychologist or other professional (How to know if you need a divorce coach)
And when things get really tough...Remember that resilience is strengthened when you encounter resistance. Consider that the purpose of difficult feelings might be to help you grow.
If you're struggling to manage a divorce, and don't want to do it ALONE anymore, I invite you to apply for a (free) Divorce Coaching Intro Session..click below for a schedule.
By Rebecca Wolf
Divorce Recovery Coach
Certified Life Coach
Founder of Her Divorce Project