Feeling Lonely? 5 Ways to Cope
Updated: May 2
Are you still getting used to sleeping alone in your bed? Are you missing your kids who are with their other parent? Are your friends busy or doing “couple” stuff? Maybe you feel like your divorce is ruining all your relationships…not just your marriage.
Divorce is isolating and loneliness is an unavoidable feeling…but it’s also very normal. Try to remember that there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. Have you ever been at a crowded party and felt lonely? And have you ever been completely content sitting alone in your favorite place? Many divorced women say that they felt more lonely when they were married than after divorce.
Here are 5 steps for coping with loneliness:
1. Accept your feelings. Feelings don’t last forever. Be patient with yourself. 2. Get to know yourself. What do you like to do? What were your hobbies when you were married? Do you like movies or knitting? What kind of music do you like? Do you like to read or draw or write? Maybe gardening or dancing? What have you always wanted to do or learn? Do you have a pet? How do you get exercise? Do you like to cook or organize your house? Do you play an instrument? What about garage sales, flea markets, or antiques? Make a list. 3. Now look at your list and plan a date with yourself. Try to plan every detail: will you stay home or go out? What will you wear? What will you eat? What supplies or equipment do you need? Will you play some music? 4. Challenge yourself to carve out some time to go on the date you planned. Then plan another… 5. Love yourself! Give yourself a hug (really...do it )
If the loneliness feels unbearable, think about scheduling a private one-on-one discovery call on my website. I know how you feel...I’ve been there...I can help!
Founder of Her Divorce Project