Angry About Being Angry?
Updated: Oct 16
Your anger is OK!
Anger doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It just means that something is wrong. (Read that again)
Anger is an emotion that is telling you you’ve been mistreated or hurt. If you let it flow, it will help you see where and how you need to care for yourself.
We weren’t taught how to be angry (at least, I wasn’t). We learned to fear anger, hide it or attempt to transform it. Feeling embarrassed of that anger, or guilty for expressing it, causes it to be managed in unhealthy ways. It gets ignored or stuffed down.
Then guess what happens?
· Substance abuse
· Other numbing behaviors
So…it you hate him, his girlfriend(s), his family…good!! You need to feel it to heal it. If you can’t safely confront him (or the person who hurt you), some other healthy ways to process anger include:
· Talking to a coach or other health professional
Our society judges women for being emotional. Women in abusive relationships are not permitted to be angry at their partners. When they show anger, it’s used against them as (false) evidence that they are irrational and crazy…and a vicious and sometimes deadly cycle begins.
Did he call you crazy when you were angry?
This happened to me.
This happened to many of my clients.
This happened to Gabby Petito (RIP ❤️)
Go back and read this again.
If you are in danger or experiencing abuse, get help now:
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